Chivalry may be dying…sad face :(
I have long thought that chivalry is dying…with every new generation of man. I was raised to believe that the only men worth dating were southern gentlemen. I was raised to EXPECT men to be polite, respectful and charming…and here I sit so very disappointed in the opposite sex (surprise, surprise). Guys, before you get your boxer briefs in a wad, let me explain myself. I am not saying that all men are rude, ill-mannered and disgusting, but I am saying that the once noble and well-mannered man is not as prevalent in today’s social scene. Once upon a time it was customary for men to hold every door for a woman (including the car). It wasn’t uncommon to see a man shivering so that his date could be wrapped comfortably in his coat. It is my hope that chivalry won’t become completely extinct, because I don’t care what any woman says…the smallest acts by a man can make a woman’s heart flutter. For example, just the other night I was interrogating my best friend about her new boy toy when she tells me that he picks her up to carry her over large rain puddles. Seriously? This dude, literally carries her over puddles so she doesn’t get the bottom of her jeans wet. While I don’t need homeboy carrying me everywhere, I have to admit that I am impressed. My friend’s story leads me to believe that the southern gentleman is not a dying breed..however I am not getting my hopes up too high.
So as much as I enjoy it, I can’t always bash men, so I guess I can take a few moments to put my girls in their place. Ladies, men will only treat you as good as you allow them. If watching your boy and his buddies drink beer and belch is your kind of fun…more power to you, however don’t bitch and complain later when he treats you like one of the guys. On the same note…girls, do not ever expect to be treated like a freaking princess. If you demand constant attention, gifts and a red carpet, you deserve to be left on your ass. Relationships are a two way street…women keep your expectations in check, but don’t lower them because you feel like you need to snag a guy. Guys, you don’t have to go above and beyond all the time…but a little chivalry and charm go a long way. Never underestimate the power of humility and sincerity…it really could be your secret weapon.
