Rachel (24) asks:

So I dated this guy for 2 years. We recently broke up about 2 months ago. It was more his doing in that he said he needed to get himself together, needed to figure out what he wanted in life, didn’t know how we could make each other happy, etc. Well it was rough at first and it took me sometime to be able to get through the day without being sad or missing him. I have since then went on a few (but unsuccessful dates) and have tried to enjoy myself more. Now all of a sudden my ex wants me back and he is trying hardcore to make it happen. He found out about the other guys (I did not tell him, he broke into my email) so now he’s telling me how hard it is and rough it is to hear about me with other men. He tells me he realizes what he has lost and he regrets letting me go. If he had said this a few months ago I would have jumped back in the relationship in a heartbeat but now, I don’t know what to do. I’m torn honestly. I still care about him but I’m not sure the damage can be healed. As unsuccessful as my dates may have been it’s still kind of fun getting to know someone new and getting that attention that you didn’t feel you had in your relationship. Don’t get me wrong, my ex isn’t a bad guy and I loved him very much but now I’m just so confused. Do I give us another chance? Do I see if things can really work out for us this second time around? Or do I just move on and forget him? Could really use the advice! PS. Loveeeee the column.

Bitter Betty says:

First of all, Thanks for reading the column, I am glad you like it…I’m pretty awesome…stoked you feel the same way!!!  Let’s get to business…I think I might have your problem solved…so here it goes…

A#1: I have to say that I am proud of you.  Good for you for jumping back into the game, even though your dates haven’t amounted to much, you are getting back into the swing of things.  This says a lot about you, and there is no better way to take your mind away from heartache like a free dinner and some harmless flirting.  You said it yourself, you are having fun getting to know other dudes and I think you should keep it up..dates are fun and you learn a lot about yourself.  Yay for that.

B#2:  Any guy that breaks into your private email account is an ass.  At no point in a relationship should your partner take it upon themselves to violate your privacy.  This makes your ex look desperate, crazy and stupid.  I can say so much about people like this…it angers me to know, that people feel they have the right to snoop.  Your business is YOUR business…and he nor any other man has the right to stick his nose in it.  Looks to me like homeboy got jealous after finding out what you have been doing with your time and to be honest, I don’t think he wants you back because he loves you, I think he wants you back because now he can’t have you.  Men and women are infamous for wanting someone slightly out of their reach and once we get it, we don’t want it anymore.  There very well might a chance that dude really might love you…but there is a larger chance that he is a douche. 

C#3: It sounds like you are kinda over it.  You will probably always have feelings for your ex and those feelings might never ever go away.  However, if you were 110% confident that getting back together with Douchie McDoucherton was the right choice, you wouldn’t be emailing me.  In fact, you wouldn’t need me at all, when it comes to swear-by-chocolate-true-love, you wouldn’t listen to what anyone had to say about it. If it’s meant to be, the fate fairies would make sure that you are together…except I don’t believe in fate fairies…so I guess you are just up creek and you are really gonna have to sit down and decide if a relationship with Mr. Email Hacker is someone you trust to spend the rest of your life with.

p.s. Change your password and your secret question to prevent  Mr. Loserface from ever taking a peek into your bizzness again.

Hope that helps!!!

Sincerely, Bitter Betty

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