Only You Can Prevent Slootyness!!
I have no tolerance for sloots and let me tell you why… there is nothing worse than falling “in like” with a guy only to find out that he is only in it for the booty. I cannot tell you how many times I have felt so disappointed and heartbroken because homeboy was never really interested in me, my beliefs or my awesomeness, he was only interested in gettin’ in my britches. This is a horrible feeling and I am sure that at some point in our lives, women will have experienced the wrath of a dude’s sexual priorities. I have thought long and hard about this and what we as women can do to prevent douche bags from treating us this way. Girls…we are the reason that men “expect” things, we are reason that dudes only involve themselves in relationships for the sole purpose of doing the deed. In order to receive respect, one must demand it. It is my belief that sloots will never receive that respect and I can promise you girls this…dude’s will never respect a female if she gives up the goods too quickly. If you didn’t already know, sloots are the girls that the guys will sit around and talk about. I’ve seen it happen, guys will compare their conquests much like they would old football stories. I will never understand how women, especially younger women behave this way, but I am pretty sure I have diagnosed this problem and I want all of you girls to read and understand this, because this may be the best piece of advice I ever give. We want attention, actually we love attention, but let’s be honest, at what price are we willing to pay for a little affection from the opposite sex? Many women seek attention from men and they use their sexuality to get it. Now I don’t know if these girls have daddy issues or if they just have a low self-esteem but I can almost promise you that giving up your body for a small amount affection is only a quick fix. Relations with random dudes will not raise your self esteem and it sure as heck will not get you the appropriate attention you deserve. Now, I know I sound like a prude and maybe so, but I am not saying sex is bad, as long as it is meaningful and done safely. Girls run the risk of getting heartbroken, diseased and a bad reputation and neither of those is worth a man’s attention. A man will only treat a woman as good as she allows herself to be treated, so for future reference ladies, check yourself before you wreck yourself. Next time you are crawling in the back seat of a Honda Civic with Brad, realize that your irresponsibility and slootyness is ultimately affecting the way you will be treated by men for the rest of your life.
Done and Done.
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July 15th, 2009 at 4:49 pm
Hmm Bitter Betty,
What a thought provoking mindgasm you just released on all of us!
And I say that in a sarcastically appreciative manner for both men and women readers because you’re really dishing out some advice that could turn a good thing sour. For any woman who may already be putting out her personal goods in a relationship with a guy that she is interested in, do not listen to this. And this is why: because you have already set the tone of your relationship by giving away what goods you did, and if all-of-a-sudden you mess with the tone and disrupt one of the aspects of a relationship us men find most intriguing, then we are going to immediately think something isn’t right. We won’t be able to put our finger on it right away, and you would never tell us that you decided to change your mind about the structure of the relationship because you read an online blog about a woman’s self-empowerment… No… you would leave it for us to figure out on our own that you want more respect (which there are many ways that men look at women and respect them other than whether they are sexual or not, and this isn’t the time to list them). That sad truth IS that there are girls and young women who do face self-esteem issues, and have a need for attention which they do not yet know how to properly attract through their own personality, and this does lead to slooty behaviour. This also means that if you are the girl in the situation I mentioned above and you all-of-a-sudden put a halt to the scandalous behaviour you show only us and that we’re such big fans of, then it’s not going to take too long before another girl comes walking into our universe and exhibits some behaviour that’s just a little more slooty than what we had (now past-tense) and we start rethinking our options about whether our current situation is really worth it. Girls, you know it’s true and I know it’s true, so don’t make that mistake.
I will add that there was one piece of advice given that did amount to something substantial, and that was: “I am not saying sex is bad, as long as it is meaningful and done safely.” Now this is key to everyone really, and it would be helpful if we all asked ourselves before engaging in sexual activities with someone, “Why is sex meaningful to me? Why do I want to do it?” Really think about it down to its core and then decide for yourself. It could be a way you want to connect with someone and really experience who they are behind closed doors, it could be something that you feel is a creative expression of who you are and you want to share that with someone, it could be a deeply profound way of giving yourself to that person you have found and truly love, it could be related to your religion, or it could really be something that you feel is fun and adventurous and you want to do it all the time with lots of different people, but whatever it is needs to be yours. What’s also important, I think, is that the two people about to do the deed need to be ballsy enough (which means guys, it looks better if you go first) to share their own personal reason why, because even if the two of you have different reasons why it’s meaningful or important to you, it’s more than likely NOT going to stop it from happening… trust me, i know. Actually in all cases it has made the situation better because we were both honest up front and then felt like we had a deeper understanding of the other person. So be safe… express yourself then protect yourself.
July 21st, 2009 at 11:06 am
I think it was fate for me to read this. I have unfortunately had this experience happen to me not once but TWICE in the past month. Both guys were charming, funny, witty and they of course said all the right things. They tried their hardest to charm the pants off of me (no pun intended). However, unfortunately for them they were unsuccessful. All I was left with was feeling of disappointment and dare I say it, sense of betrayl because I thought the guy was in it for me, not for what I could do for him. I know all too well how common this exists. Luckily, I’m not naiive to fall for it and go the extreme but that in no way makes it any easier. Still holding out for that good guy….if there’s one left.